What Do I Know, Really?

I'm going to talk about relationships again. But not in the way I usually do it.

I was reading Kenny's blog and felt compelled to leave a rather long comment about what he wrote. This is not the first time that I've done it and not only at Kenny's either. I suddenly wondered why I like to talk and think about relationship and express opinions about it as if I'm some kind of expert.

I'm no expert obviously. Most of the opinions I express are based on theory. When you think about it, it's kind of sad. Most of it is just theory. How would I react if someone disagreed with me and put me on the spot?

I could quote stats and other peoples' experiences but is that as strong as personal experience?

Yes, if someone asked me to "back it up" it would be rather embarrassing because to be honest I got nothing to back up all these things I write about relationships. Especially about what makes it work. As if...

I sometimes scoff at people for making terrible mistakes in the relationships but suddenly I thought what right have I to do that?

They may be the ones making the mistakes but they are the ones who managed to start a relationship. Unlike some overly opinionated people.

I guess one could say that this post is a reminder for myself to back off a bit and let people who have the practical experience talk about what works and what doesn't. Especially on what works. I may have my opinions but damned if I know if any of it is true.

Except maybe what NOT to do in relationships. That, I have plenty of practice. It's something I need to remember.